“I’ll never be happy again”
“The pain is overwhelming”
“Is this normal?”
“Why can’t I just move on, it’s been a year already”
“I’m so confused”
“I don’t know what I feel, I’m numb”
“I experience guilt when I feel happy”
Sound familiar? Everyone experiences loss in their life. Our connection to others and things outside of ourselves is what makes us human. And when we lose that someone or something, it can be devastating. We all have the ability to experience the full range of emotion human, which is beautifully diverse, and at the same time certain emotions can be excruciating to feel.
To heal from a loss means having to move through the grief, there aren’t many ways around it. Many that try to avoid the mourning process may find themselves years later triggered by a different loss, and feeling even more overwhelmed.
Grief is difficult to navigate alone, and the irony is that it’s often a very lonely experience. There are supports and ways to help you navigate your grief in a “healthier” and more supportive way.
Therapy can be helpful to:
(a) Normalize the grief process
(b) Understand your own experience of grief
(c) Offer tools/strategies to help you honor/mourn your loss & move through the grief
Normalizes the experience of grief. The emotions experienced after a loss can be confusing and overwhelming - Alexandra likes to describe herself as a grief coach, offering some navigation in a confusing sea of emotion. Understanding what’s typical of the grief experience helps you build compassion and softens your grief journey. As much as we’d prefer to get over the loss and not hurt anymore, the only way to move forward is to move through the grief. Alexandra will support you in doing this.
Explores your own grief process. Everyone mourns differently, and each loss can be a different emotional experience. Know that with each loss, there tends to be many layers of grief and it’s important to honor each of these layers of loss to help with healing.
Teaches new ways of coping. We’ll examine what you’re already doing to support yourself (there’s always something helpful you’re already doing for yourself). We’ll also explore new “tools” to add to your “coping toolbox”. Mourning through symbolic acts is an important part of the grief process - it’s helps your mind and body acknowledge and accept a loss by making something that’s somewhat intangible more real.